LET'S TALK..WHERE'S THE BUT COMING FROM??!!

So, you've been thinking about Counselling for a while, however each time there is a BUT..Perhaps it's a BIG BUT, A MEDIUM SIZED BUT, A SMALL BUT. However, it's the BUT that maybe prevents you seeking some support and enabling you to live a brighter, happier, more fulfilled, peaceful, calmer life that YOU deserve. Yes we are all deserving and worthy of this.

Today I would like to clear some of those potential BUTS up that might be getting in the way of seeking support. Before I do this, I will say that these answers are how I work and other counsellors might have different answers.

Here's my BUT and this is an okay BUT that might help you. It's okay to do some research and ask counsellors any questions you might have. If you are still reading THANK YOU.I hope these answers help.

• BUT you don't think your problem is THAT big or important.If it matters to you and is impacting you. It's important and I can support you with this. Even if you think it's just a little niggle talking things through can help.
• BUT other people's problems are more important than mine. YOU are the most IMPORTANT PERSON. Your mental health and emotional being is important.
• BUT you are embarrassed or feel silly. It can be difficult to open up and talk about stuff sometimes. BUT I GUARANTEE YOU A SAFE, CONFIDENTIAL SPACE WITH EMPATHY, UNDERSTANDING, COMPASSION AND NO JUDGEMENT.
• BUT you might get upset, angry, sad. This can happen sometimes. However, this can often be a release of emotions that have built up over time and can releasing these can be part of the healing process.
• BUT you are worried about what people think and don't want people knowing your business. Your appointments remain confidential. If you don't want to tell anyone that's okay.
• BUT it's too expensive. I offer reduced rates to suit your income.
• BUT you don't want someone telling you what to do. I get this. As a counsellor my role is a supportive one rather than a diagnostic one. So I will never tell you what to do. Although if you find it beneficial we can explore some coping strategies.
• BUT I don't have time. I get this too.I work flexibly offer in person, online or telephone appointments. I offer some evenings and Saturday appointments. I also happy to offer fortnightly, monthly or one off appointments.
• BUT the counsellor won't be nice. I get this one as well. I believe that I offer a warm, welcoming, supportive and flexible approach to counselling. I tailor appointments to suit individuals. I always suggest an initial appointment to start with meaning there is no pressure to come back if you don't feel I am the right one for you. However, I understand it's all very well me saying this but what am actually like. I have a few testimonials from previous clients on my website and counselling directory profile which might give you an insight into what I am really like.

Firstly if you have read all of this THANK YOU. If you feel ready to move the BUT out the way, so you can seek the support you deserve to enable you to step forward to a brighter future. Please feel free to get in touch to discuss how I might be able to support you further. I'm always happy to have a chat beforehand. If you have found this blog post helpful and think you might be ready for counselling, you might like to check out my first blog post called..Finding A Counsellor..Where Do I Start? On this website you will find a number of different blog posts as well as 6 FREE PDF DOWNLOADS. I also post regularly on my Tracy Smithers. Step by Step Counselling Facebook Page.
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